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WILL YOU ACCEPT ME IF I EVER GET RAPED? The fear is real.

Have you ever wondered, how would it feel to become the prey somebody’s filthy desires? It rather seems trivial to go on a protest or put up a hashtag for someone’s life that has taken a 360 degree turn in a jiffy amount of time. As I ramble  around the city at nights or days when I am by myself I ponder to myself what if a group of men grope on me and I shall not have the mastery to strive back? What if I am RAPED? “Rape” as vicious as it sounds, the consequence of what rape can induce can only and only be felt by those who had to thole it.

I doubt over a thousand times for if my family would stand by me if I ever get in a mishap as that. The vigilance for amount of years to guard the probity of an individual chiefly female, come to naught when one goes through the torment of rape. Will my parents have the courage to proudly own me and help regain my composer? Will the relatives act normal on me? Will I have the motivation to continue living? Or will I ever get a life partner who shall accept me on any circumstances? As I hear or watch anything close to rape, my mind stops to reflect on these questions.

Having the aptitude to give support to the people who go through difficulties as big as rape, have we done enough to desist it? It is as easy as breathing to talk of how the incident has wrecked the lives of those who have had to undergo the hardship. As someone who wants or at least thinks o progress of the mankind, we would like to believe that the world is ready to accept and alter the vile into proficient. But to our own assent, we cannot even guarantee the sustenance from our own family. It is a matter of piteous that the world has yet to ascertain the prominent portrayal of benevolence.

 

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Shristi Nakarmi

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Suna Saili- Hemanta Rana(Song Review)

The official music video for ‘Suna Saili’, a song by Hemanta Rana is finally out. I had been desperately waiting for the video to release because I, like hundreds of thousands of Nepalese can completely relate to this song. I must say a lot of effort has been put in making this video, by the director, the actors and the entire production team. As a result, the music video for the most admired song lately has come out to be a masterpiece, completely justifying the lyrics.

It’s been 7 years now, since my daddy went to Europe. I cannot even begin to describe how difficult it was for me, as my daddy’s youngest, most pampered child to adjust with the change back then. I’ve always been very excited about my birthdays. But may be that was the only year I did not feel like celebrating it at all for it had only been two months since Daddy had gone to Amsterdam.

The first few weeks, I just wished he didn’t call. I could never hold my tears; I’d break down as soon as I heard him say ‘Chhori’. I can imagine how difficult it must have been for mummy to pretend being strong in front of us.

It makes me very sad to see how at least one member from almost every family in Nepal is flying abroad today. May it be to study, to work or to settle there. It’s sad how so few families reunite during festivals, how at least one member of the family is compelled to witness a very important family function via social media. It’s sad how people are so busy creating a living abroad, they do not get to see their parents live the last moments of their lives. Meeting with their children before they die remains like the only wish to old parents. What’s even sader is how a mother sends her son abroad with a  heavy heart and while she’s expecting him to come back to her soon, what comes to her is the dead body, a dead segment of her heart.

After daddy’s flight, I’d see mom lock herself in a room and sob. I used to have my elder brother here to console her back then. But not even a single year had passed since Daddy left for Amsterdam, my brother went to London to pursue his studies. Mummy didn’t even have her eyes dried when, again, she found a reason to cry. I have had enough of seeing her break down into tears. It’s me who my mom is most attached with at this point of time, and I know; the thought itself, of having to let me go, makes her sad, very sad. I wouldn’t want to be the reason behind another heartbreak my momma goes through.

Here is the song’s link.

 

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Archana Panthi

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Valentine’s Day; Celebration or Sorrow?

Valentine’s Day, a day dedicated to those who love. I’m among those who have never found Valentine’s Day so fascinating. I believe that one doesn’t need any specific day to tell their significant other how special they are. When you’re in love, everyday is and should be equally special. But since almost everything has a special day to mark them, may be Valentine’s Day is no different. couples-holding-hands-in-the-sunset_494728

I do not mean to say that I am completely against the idea of Valentine’s Day. Love is a very beautiful feeling. If falling in love is a scoop of your favorite ice-cream, the feeling of being loved back by someone you love is a chocolate brownie with it. Seeing two people madly in love makes me very happy. What makes me happiest is when the two loving hearts reach their goal and get married. I wish every early twenties baby-babu’s relationship ends up becoming Mr. & Mrs <insert name>.

It’s so sad when two people who love have to part. Circumstances play their role in parting two people and it’s not fair. You love someone, you share all your dreams, start imagining a future with them, kneel down in front of every statue you have faith in, praying they always remain in your life. But what happens in the end? Those who promised they’d always stay, leave the earliest. Why? Its either pressure from the family, one cheating on the other, lies or some lame misunderstanding that leads to breaking up of the relationship that you treasured for so long. Whatever the reason may be, it leads to a very bad heartbreak. At least one of the two involved ends up being so heartbroken, they fear trusting anyone else again. It’s sad how a person, who once loved their heart out, has no faith in love anymore.

This article is dedicated to all those beautiful souls who’ve had their heart broken once in their life or are going through one at this time. It is a tribute to those who have loved to the fullest at one point of time and now fear commitment.

Today, you’ve seen many people post pictures celebrating this special day with their loved ones. And this must have hurt you, or made you feel bad. But remember, Valentine’s Day is about making the person who loves you the most feel special. Make yourself your Valentine, take yourself on a date. I say this with experience, there is no better feeling than pampering yourself with all the love you’ve once invested on someone else. If you have had the potential to make another person feel so good, you definitely deserve to be pampered back equally. Don’t wait for someone else to come pamper you, do it by yourself. It’s about time; don’t rush into a relationship because all your friends have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Wait for the right person to come, because perfect is just a phoney.

Collect all your shattered pieces and make a beautiful art out of you. Love others unconditionally. But first, love yourself the most. Make yourself a priority, because at the end of the day, you are your longest commitment.

 

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Archana Panthi

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The flowering

Why, how, where, when, what, etc are the questions that every enthusiastic conscious brain thinks about. The question about your existence, the meanings of the life are the most common thoughts if you have ever thought seriously about the life.

I like to think these are the most common thoughts through the vision and the way I have understood my life.

The most important thing would be readiness and idea of giving something to achieve something or karma cycle.

The psychological explanations may not match with real life experience as the socialization process also differs as per individual.

to be continued………………..

Conversation in Heart of Mandala

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Z: The act of experience is the act of knowing both come hand in hand, there cannot be an experience without knowing and there cannot be a knowing without the experience.

A: yes, but what about the vacuum between the knower and the known and particularly the process of knowing, within that sphere it is a constant motion, a constant flow as Heraclitus concluded, ‘Panta Rehi’, everything flows isn’t that a stretch? The question is not what is known, but who knows? Who is it that knows?

Z: (pause) That is the paradox the knower, knowing, known are not different they are one, if you take all of them out like peeling the layer of onion at last you see its empty that doesn’t mean that it has no essence out of essence it is, the very friction of it creates the universe

A: let me quote from Rig Veda, may be that is what you mean to say ‘That One Thing, breathless, breathed by its own nature: apart from it was nothing whatsoever’ if this is the case, why seek? Why even live? Why the whole drama?

Z: The Veda’s are beautiful very orgasmic to read, every word is an ‘AHHHAAA’ moment by the Vedic thought the universe began as the primal desire the primal desire was the primordial seed the whole drama is the drama of germination of growth, decay and death it is regardless of what we think, the drama we think it is, regardless of all that which comes into words we aimlessly worry and are serious about this, why do you care if there is a drama or not? Why do you see? I don’t seek. I have no seeking business. I enjoy this, mundane or divine, whatever it is; I just enjoy it completely and wholeheartedly

A: If you are not seeking, what are you doing?

Z: I am a seeker, it doesn’t mean that I am not a seeker but I am not seeking, the seek is an absolute observance

A: That’s a very cunning, isn’t it?

Z: How can that not be cunning? Cunningness is a precious possession in equanimity. You know it’s a play and you can play ,You know You are in a movie and play , knowing that the movie is just a projection in an infinite screen you break the cycle, you reach the centre of mandala and now you can be truly playful in your realization that is a purified cunningness’ of the self

A: But you still need to think about paying your phone bills, and paying your taxes and what not this will surely not make you in equanimity because this draws you in

Z: It draws the system in, those who identify as the system or a part of it surely will be driven inside it but I don’t belong to any system no system, no lineage, no nothing I go pay my phone bills, because I have a phone the character has a phone, so he does that that doesn’t limit him, if he comes to a point where he cannot afford it he can easily let go of the phone being in equanimity he doesn’t expect at all, he lives in the now, so he can just be .I am not driven into it, but I do enjoy its faculties, it gives a sort of ease when I need to go to a Dentist or read the notes that needs to be read recite poetry, fall in love, observing the whole thing if it is not working, it is not working, I OBSERVE if it is a fight, it is a fight, I OBSERVE there is no pretense with it.

 

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Aadesh Bhattarai

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Riders of the strom

Wheelchair active or passive, balanced or modified, it gives mobility to those individuals who had lost their power of natural mobility.

When i rode wheelchair for the first time in the place, i became quite amaze. Wheelchair looks so mechanical but it’s so comfortable and accessible. Then suddenly a thought raised in my mind and i came to conclude”Wheelchair is not about mobility but it’s about possibility”.

When a differently able person is reinstated with the mobility, they can achieve almost anything. There are endless possibilities and now along with technology advancement researchers has developed modern wheelchairs i.e. standing wheel. This type of standing wheelchair will bring difference on how society  treats differently able people using wheelchairs.

The saddest part is that infrastructure and physical environment are responsible to limit differently able person . Our city needs to adopt disable friendly environment which includes bus station,malls, also the most important disable friendly toilets. For example: Japan is the most friendly country for different able people, which generates maximum potential and encourage differently able person.

likewise, when you promotes disability, your country promotes disability. Thus, let’s make a small social contribution towards wheelchair users on promoting disable friendly environment on our country Nepal.

Digitization Nepal

The world is moving towards digitization.With the advancement in technology, innovation and rapidly growing internet service almost everything is possible from any corner of the world.

If we search about content regarding various topics of Nepal in various search engines, we get fewer Nepalese website with the majority of non-Nepalese website in the list.

However, judging by the pattern in which Nepalese are using the internet, we can see that massive use of the internet is being made (mostly in the form of social media) but are they making any inputs of their knowledge base?

Generally,the use of internet among Nepalese youth is just limited towards using the internet for entertainment and social networking.Not saying that it is bad, but it’s high time that we think about how we can give inputs from our side.

Are they using internet for their purpose or internet is using them as a targeted customer?

The major question here is HOW? Ways any Nepali can give their input is by using different free websites and blogs to share their unique knowledge, experience, views, beliefs and perspectives.For a student, they can upload their academic work, research, and their presentations through various sites.

The only motive is to motivate youths to digitize the knowledge each individual possess, so that the future generations can enjoy or anyone who search the internet knowledge base can use it as a reference guide.

In addition to the commercial use of digital world,educational purpose should also be highlighted by the people who are promoting the use of internet.

The major concern here is to digitize your knowledge base you have as well as the experience you could share, critics you could make and also including the academic knowledge you want to share so that people interested can enjoy and make proper use of your contents.

Bardia – sweetest memory

An insider,a permanent resident of Kathmandu valley and a social work student went on a journey, a flood relief camp on Bardia district,Mohammadpur vdc,Bhaisai(village near Babai river).Our main objective was to collect the data of the loss caused by flood and to know about the community residing in that village

Our camp was situated on the Shree Nepal school and the environment as well as the courtesy of Tharu people was overwhelming.I was always missing one face of my own country Nepal,  beyond the chaos there was a peace.

I saw people living in scarcity but actually the truth was people had been  always satisfied. Far away from the mainstream lifestyle, there was this untouched land  Bhaisai with its unique lifestyle.

 

 

Tech and addiction

Did you ever raise the question to yourself that how much you are addicted to technology?
Can you start a day without surfing the internet on your mobile phone?

The diplomacy and cunning of company and manufacturer to its customer to sell their products has led towards addictiveness.We can relate customer as an addict, mobile dealers as a drug dealer and manufacturer as producer of the drug.

The idea is not to generalise that smartphone is of no use, it is of great use only if you can use it wisely.

Many of us are not aware of the application that can be used in day-to-day life.Also, we are unable to use it wisely. For instance: how many of us use the reminder, stopwatch, countdown timer, health apps,etc. We barely open those apps.
Nowadays I can see most of the Nepalese building their clan on a clash of the clan or play piano tiles all the time. A couple of years earlier there was an app called angry bird you might be well aware of that app.

The core idea is that motivate you to use the smartphone in the smart way as many of e-entrepreneur has used. Try to come out of the complex whole of application market and try to minimise the use of unproductive applications which consumes both time and energy.

Stop following the fashion of owning the latest gadget and stop wasting money in unproductive tech-gadgets. Technology can be work in both ways as a boon or as a curse.

How many of us are continuously distracted by mobile phone in the daily basis? Can you concentrate on your work when you use the smartphone or your work can’t resume your work without the use of the smartphone?

An American company has developed a plastic shape smartphone structure to replace the sensation of holding a phone.This means now it is unimaginable to spend a day without unlocking your smartphone.

How do you feel when your smartphone is switched off?
You wanted to charge or you will be looking for a source to charge your phone desperately.

Do any of your friend or family member use phones at the time of dinner, social gathering and interaction? Did you ever raise a question when they use it or did u ever argue regarding the issue of the use of the smartphone by your friend, family in gathering or social talk or in a dinner table?
If you want people to be social without the use of social network or any virtual means or without using the smartphone, then you should probably suggest minimising the use  of smartphone to the one who is unaware about the addiction of smartphone.

Let’s not follow the trend and let’s not wait for another iPhone to launch. Let’s use the smartphone in a smart way and let’s prevent you from following the current trend of using the latest smartphone.

Labels of society and sucess

How you are labelled by a society?
You have to perform in the same way which society wants; you seems to me as a trained actor for the society.You are prepared for the society; you are polished and socialized for the society.And it’s necessary as per the demand of the time.
How are you supposed to function in this cruel society ; where humans are brought in the exchange of money and where everything revolves around the money.Yes, this is the bitter reality of every society. You have to compete with every single individual to achieve a label.

Label is how people will know you in person with certain roles, responsibility and demand in the society where you exist.Choose your label carefully so that it will be easier for you to fulfill yours objective.

Each and every single individual is label in some or many ways and may differ according to time and context as well as it is determined by your skills, experience, seniority and achievement.

Thus, always direct yourself to label you want not what society, family or your  peer group want. After all, self-satisfaction leads you towards better social functioning and into a whole new level of satisfaction which is also major factor to determine your success through achieved label.